Before the month of love ends, I wanted to talk about something that has been on my heart the last few weeks, which is loving truly loving the woman who looks back at you in the mirror.
Let’s be honest sis, in today’s society we see women who bounce back from pregnancies in a matter of weeks, or other women who purchase their body parts and play it off like it is their own, its extremely easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to the next women.
To be 100% real and honest, regardless of whether we want to admit it or not, we have compared ourselves to the next woman in one way or another.
But sis, I have some news for you.
Regardless of what you consider your flaws, you are absolutely perfect the way you are.In the case of myself, I have since I can remember been in a terrible cycle of feeling like my body wasn’t perfect or as good as the next woman. The crazy thing is, the reasoning behind my feelings wasn’t always the same. It took me pretty much turning 30 and going through another stage of going back up in my weight for me to realize that regardless of whatever stage I was in and what I felt about my body at that time, I still had to love and appreciate it.
To the highest regard.
I mean think about it, God only gives us one body to live in. ONE. Why would we spend showing the one place we will live in for the duration of our lives that we dislike it because we have cellulite on our thighs or stretch marks on our hips?
5 secrets to loving yourself
Tip #1-Stop Seeking Validation.Sis. this is a BIG no no. I think whether we all admit it or not, we all have been through a stage where we feel like we need the approval of others, especially with us living in a social media driven world now. At the end of the day, no one else’s opinion matters, but yours and yours only.
Tip #2 Stop comparing yourself.
This ties back into tip #1. God made each and every one of us unique. It’s surprising because oftentimes when we compare ourselves to the next person it is usually because we feel like if we had that person’s physique, looks, or even status it would make us a better individual. Trust me that’s not the case.
I am a true believer that God gave each of us the capabilities to truly live our lives to our wildest dreams and it is just a matter of us figuring out how to do that.
If God wanted us to be just like each other, he would have made it that way to make it easy on us right? *Insert Kanye shrug* lol
Tip #3 Focus on the positives
Have you ever caught yourself being so caught up being negative about your body or your weight loss journey that you didn’t even realize it? Me too. It is very easy to get caught up. Start thinking about what parts of your body you do admire, or what is a trait that you have that’s unique. Once you focus on the positives, your whole mindset will change.
Tip #4 Numbers are NOT everything
I could actually write a whole blog on this tip alone, but sis, GET OFF THE SCALE! Just because you see the girl on instagram who says she weighs 160lbs , that does not mean that your 160lbs will look the same. (Which is one of the reasons why I don’t want you comparing yourself in the first place)If you gained a pound or two here, its ok, we as women be having a lot going on in our bodies. Especially if you are on a weight loss journey, you may be building muscle, etc. There have been plenty of times when the scale has not moved yet I know my clothes fit differently.
Tip #5 Understand you will always be your biggest critic
Things are not as bad as they seem, it’s just that little negative voice in our minds trying to convince us otherwise. I think that’s just something we are born with lol. You are amazing, and once you begin to treat your body like it is amazing you will feel that way.
Don’t criticize yourself too hard sis. You are doing the best you can.
My whole motive behind this post today isn’t to bash anyone who does decide to get any cosmetic procedures done. In my opinion, if you don’t truly love yourself then surgery is a waste. On the flip side, if you feel that getting surgery is just the icing on the cake then by all means go for it. But my hope is that you take some of these tips to help you in case you went through a long struggle like I have.